Section: Questions Category: Halacha
|Submitted by suzie Answered by Rav Peretz Moncharsh|
First of all, how do you know that you aren't the tops? Nobody is perfect and each person is judged on his personal accomplishments against his individual challenges. The most important thing in life is to be constantly working on yourself and improving, and if you are asking important questions it shows you care enough to do what is right.
What you probably mean to say is that you don't consider yourself on the lofty level to be accepting the challenge of taking on difficult chumros. However, in this case we are not dealing with a chumra but with a serious issur d'oraisa. The pasuk says "lo sikravu l'galos erva" and this forbids any affectionate physical contact between members of the opposite sex. Even being alone in the same room together is an issur d'oraisa of yichud. R' Moshe Feinstein zatzal writes that even a friendly phone conversation between a boy and a girl can potentially involve issurim d'oraisa. The Gemorra relates the story of someone who the doctors determined would die if he did not merely talk to a woman who would stand on the opposite side of a fence, and Chazal said that he still may not speak to her even at risk of death.
So I wish you well in your quest to be "the best jew in the world", but understand that this is more serious than eating treif or lighting a fire on Shabbos which do not require one to give up his life.