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Section: Daily Reminder   Category: Zechiras Miriam
Looking For People? Hashem Has Connections!

In his classic Sefer the Seder HaYom, Rav Moshe ben Yehuda Machir who lived in the golden age of Tzfas writes that there was a minhag to ask your friend Mechila after Yom Kippur is over.  The reason is that you are not completely forgiven on Yom Kippur for aveiros between you and your fellow man unless your friend has forgiven you.  Therefore now that you have done your tshuva for upsetting Hashem by harming your friend, you need to complete it by getting your friend's forgiveness as well.

Lashon Hara is very hard to track down.  Daven that Hashem puts it in the heart of your friend to be Mochel you without your asking.  If you really stop speaking Lashon Hara, Hashem can do that for you.  He knows a lot of people!

"Zachor Eis Asher Asa Hashem L'Miriam BaDerech B'Tzaischem MiMitzrayim"

The Ramban and other Rishonim count, among the Mitzvos Aseh Min HaTorah, the mitzva of remembering and saying with your mouth each day what Hashem did to Miriam when she spoke about her brother Moshe.  The Chofetz Chaim in Shaar Tvunah Perek 12 says that being Mikayem this mitzva can save you from the aveira of Lashon Hara.  More than just saying the pasuk, says the Chofetz Chaim, one must think about the incident in order for it to have its intended effect.

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