Zecher LíChurban Ė Hostess, Something Is Missing At The Table
After the Churban, the Chachomim were Misaken a number of things one should do Zecher L’Churban. The Shulchan Aruch (560:2) says that among these, is to leave an empty place setting when you make a Se’uda for guests and also to leave out one kind of food that is normally served.
The Mishna Brura (5) says this applies even to a Se’udas Mitzva such as a Bris or Chasuna. However he brings from Rav Yaakov Emden in Mor U’Ketzia that this does not apply to Shabbos or Yom Tov and nothing should be left out of those meals.
The Chayei Adam writes that it is “Tzarich Iyun” that we do not do this anymore today. The Kaf HaChaim writes that the reason we don’t do this is because we no longer have set menus nowadays like they did back then. Therefore even if you left out one food, no one would notice its absence. Nevertheless says the Kaf HaChaim; an empty space should be left at a meal with guests.
Important Note: We try to convey the Tshuva to the best of our ability. We admit that our understanding may not be accurate. Please also understand that this Tshuva may not be the final word on this topic. One should consult a Rav before drawing any conclusions.
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