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Miscellaneous - Engagement - Breaking Plates
Submitted by anonymous  Answered by Rabbi Tzvi Frank
Question: My son has just gotten engaged! Mazal Tov! The mothers in law would like all and any information regarding the tradition or law of breaking the plate to mark the engagement: is there a bracha said? when is it done? who breaks it? are witnesses needed? etc. etc.
Answer:

Mazel Tov!!

The breaking of the plate ceremony is traditionally performed at the tanaaim or vort as well as right before the "badecken" at the wedding. It is a custom to remind us in the time of our greatest joy that our happiness can only be bittersweet as we are still in galus. There is no brachah recited, the halachic witnesses requirements are not necessary for this and it is usually done after the signing of the tana'aim if indeed there is a tana'aim written at the vort.

The custom is that the two mothers break it together.

I have seen another reason, and that is the breaking of the ceramic plate signifies "a done deal". Just like broken ceramic cannot be repaired and is final, it symbolizes the finality of this transaction.

Wishing you a hearfelt Mazal Tov!

posted:2008-04-15 19:19:10


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