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Halacha - kibud av and em eating unkosher
Submitted by anonymous  Answered by Rav Peretz Moncharsh
Question: A person's parents feel hurt and pain. They want him to eat at their house. They have almost all kosher ingredients in their house with hechsherim and two sets of plates, pots and utensils. They don't really know the halachot of kashrut well and never review them. They don't know that a "davar charif" and a knife will tansfer a taste. From time to time these parents make mistakes they don't know they are making. They say that his choosing not to eat hot food that they cook on their plates at their home is a transgression of Kibud Av and Em. Is that true? Is there anything in the literature (perhaps in shlot and tesuvot) on this?

The Gemara is clear that one need not listen to his parents if they tell him to do something that is against Halacha such as eating non-Kosher food, even inadvertently. However in such a situation it is necessary to analyze the exact specific Kashrus problems that may arise and determine if there is truly any issur to eat the food. In many cases the food may be permitted to eat even if it was prepared in a manner inconsistent with Halacha. It is necessary to determine each incident on a case by case basis with great sensitivity for the parent's feelings, as they apparently mean well and must be treated with respect.

posted:2009-01-25 07:38:29

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