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Section:  Avodah   Category: Innocent Observations
Your Best Friend the Rabbi

The Mishna in Pirkei Avos (1:6) tells us "Aseh Licha Rav U'Knei Licha Chaver". All the meforshim ask why when it comes to a Rav we "make" for ourselves a Rav while a friend we must "buy".

The Pashut Pshat is that the Rov and friend are two separate people. But maybe we can offer B'Derech Drush that they are one and the same yet two different aspects of our relationship with the Rov. When it comes to asking Shailos and learning Torah we can choose any Rov we like and the Rov will not refuse. But Chazal are urging us to create a much stronger bond with our Rov, the bond of true friendship.

There is a Mitzvas Aseh of "Uvo Sidbak", we must attached ourselves to Talmidei Chachomim, stand by their side and learn from their every move. This say the Rambam in Sefer HaMitzvos includes spending time with them and not leaving their side, even during mundane activities like eating and drinking. A relationship of this closeness cannot be demanded of a Rov. While Chaver means friend it also mean to attach. It is incumbent on us to "buy" this attachment by ingratiating ourselves to our Rov.

Rabbeinu Yonah says friendship includes three things, learning Torah together, encouraging each other to perform mitzvos, and give advice and be a confidant. No one is more properly equipped to be a true friend more so than your Rov.