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Section: Galus & Geula   Category: Galus
Dancing On Your Wife's Grave
Mourning for our Bais HaMikdash is a round the year activity.  The Ramchal say that we get drunk on Purim because even the slightest feeling of sadness is forbidden on this day of pure simcha, even thinking about the Bais HaMikdash.  

We mourn the Bais HaMikdash all year round, but the three weeks are like the days of Shloshim and Shiva, when the mourning is most intense.  After Tisha B'av we focus more on the consolation.  We read the beautiful words of the Nevi'im promising a glorious return to Tziyon and the open revelation of the Shechina in the world over.

When we lose a loved one we don't get up from Shiva and start to party.  The feeling of loss does not disappear.  We try to look towards the tasks at hand and pick up the pieces.  If someone were to get up from Shiva for their wife and start dating the day Shiva ends it would be a sad commentary on his true feelings for his deceased wife.

So much more in the case of the Bais HaMikdash.  The Bais HaMikdash is still not here, although Hashem promised He would rebuild it.  The time is clearly near and there is so much we can do to hasten its imminent arrival.  One would think that after Tisha B'av passes we'd all run to implement plans that will bring Moshiach.  Yet there are also activities and pursuits so contrary to Hisgalus HaShechina that they delay the coming of Moshiach, as they show our true desire to remain in Galus.

Where we run to the moment we break our fast on Tisha B'av is a clear indication as to where we'd like to be, and how soon we really want Moshiach to come.  Ask yourself right now, where are you this moment and what are you doing to bring Moshiach?