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Section: Daily Reminder   Category: Zechiras Miriam
Looking For A Good Shidduch?

Eliezer the Eved of Avrohom, dreamed that his daughter would marry Yitzchok.  Eliezer was no slouch, as he was the top talmid of Avrohom Avinu.  He was called Damesek Eliezer because he drew the Torah from the wellsprings of Avrohom and gave others to drink.  Nevertheless when he approached his master Avrohom with his shidduch proposal, Avrohom said that it would be impossible!  Eliezer came from Cham who is "Arur" and Avrohom came from Shem who is "Baruch".  An Arur can never make a shidduch with a Baruch.

"Arur Makei Rei'eihu B'seser."  The Torah curses someone who speaks Lashon Hara not only with the above curse but another two more curses apply to him.  If you are looking for a shidduch and you are an Arur, don't expect to find a Baruch.  Your grandfather Avrohom said that it just can't happen.    

"Zachor Eis Asher Asa Hashem L'Miriam BaDerech B'Tzaischem MiMitzrayim"

The Ramban and other Rishonim count, among the Mitzvos Aseh Min HaTorah, the mitzva of remembering and saying with your mouth each day what Hashem did to Miriam when she spoke about her brother Moshe.  The Chofetz Chaim in Shaar Tvunah Perek 12 says that being Mikayem this mitzva can save you from the aveira of Lashon Hara.  More than just saying the pasuk, says the ChofetzChaim, one must think about the incident in order for it to have its intended effect.

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