Section:  Avodah   Category: Bnei Bayscha
One In A Thousand...
Shlomo HaMelech the wisest of all men tells us in Koheles (7:28) “Adam Echad MeiElef Matzasi, V’Isha Bichol Eileh Lo Matzasi”; I have found one good man out of a thousand but one good woman I haven’t found at all.  What does Shlomo mean?  Why are there only good men and no good women?  

I once heard from my Rebbi from one of the Acharonim (although it escapes me now) that the pasuk is actually saying the opposite of what it appears.  “Adam Echad MeiElef Matzasi”.  Shlomo HaMelech is disappointed to find from one thousand men only a single good one.  What happened to the other 999?  The second half of the pasuk answers this question. “V’Isha Bichol Eileh Lo Matzasi”; among these other men there wasn’t a good women standing behind him.

The moral of the story is that each person is only half of a whole.  Each one may have their individual talents, traits, and qualities.  However no matter how great a man is, alone says the gemara, a man lives without bracha (Yevamos 62b).  There can only be Hashro’as HaShechina if both parts of the union merit it together (Sotah 17a).

A person who has accomplished a great deal in his life would be foolish not to recognize his wife’s role in it.  Look at Rebbi Akiva.  He returns to his hometown after 24 years away from his wife.  He left as an Am HaAretz and returns as one of the greatest figures in Jewish history.  His wife last saw him when he knew nothing and had no visible role in his transformation to greatness.  Yet when she comes out to greet Rebbi Akiva and the talmidim push her away, Rebbi Akiva stops them and says his famous words, “Sheli V’Shelachem Shela Hu”; my torah and your torah are all to her credit (Kesubos 63a).  How is that possible wonder the talmidim?  

We see from here that no matter how one sided the situation appears, no matter what the traits and qualities of each side of the marriage, rest assure, says the wisest of all wise men, give the wife credit for without her the husband would be just be another casualty of Shlomo’s statistics.