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Section:  Avodah   Category: General
The Death of Rav Rechumi and The Widow's Anguish

The Gemara says that R. Rechumi died as a result of the anguish that he caused his wife by not arriving home at the expected time. R. Chaim Shmuelivitz asks that certainly his wife had even greater anguish at the news that her husband passed away and was never going to come home, so why was this an appropriate punishment?

R. Chaim answers that if someone causes anguish to another person it is tantamount to starting a firs and will cause destruction like a fire. The destruction that is caused is not a punishment it is simply the natural byproduct of the fire that was started by means of causing anguish to another person.  Once it ravages out of control it can cause damage even to the victims.  This is the destructive power of anger.