Section: Halacha   Category: Tshuvos
Chelkas Yaakov: Can You Break A Shidduch If The Girl Lied About Her Age?

The Chelkas Yaakov (EH 80) was asked about a girl who was supposedly 28 years old a the time of her engagement and when when it was time to get married three years later it turned out she was 36 and not 31. Does the Chosson have halachic grounds to break the engagement?

He answers that we don't find anywhere in the gemara (Chulin or Kesuvos) among the list of Mumim, blemishes that age is considered a Mum. However the Chassam Sofer says that the gemara in Bava Basra says that a women who is over 40 years old and never married cannot have children, therefore not only can you break a shidduch but even if they were already married you should divorce her because of the mitzva of Pru U'Rvu. Other than that he says that breaking an engagement because of age is not justified.

Important Note: We try to convey the Tshuva to the best of our ability. We admit that our understanding may not be accurate. Please also understand that this Tshuva may not be the final word on this topic. One should consult a Rav before drawing any conclusions.